I love working with women; homeopathy is a beautiful way of enhancing our well-being because it is not invasive and it respects our cyclical nature.
In my 13 years' experience as a homeopath, I have observed that the problems experienced by women in their reproductive organs and with their monthly cycles almost always have their source in suppressed emotions which translate into physical manifestations.
These are therefore a wake-up call to address issues that are being dismissed. This is why so many women experience anger or even full-blown rage at the time of ovulation or before their periods. If nothing is done, it can lead to depression, which is anger turned inward.
PREGNANCY AND CHILDBIRTH
Homeopathic medicines are ideal to use in pregnancy as they are gentle and without side-effects.
My grandmother gave birth to 11 children at home, and 2 of these were twins. My mother always jokes that giving birth to my brother and to me was like 'a letter going through the letterbox'. I gave birth to my daughter in 2 hours; I pushed for 15 min and then suddenly heard the midwife say: 'Open your eyes, your baby is born!'. I had not felt her go through. My son was born in 2hr30, and I walked around the corridor at the hospital through the contractions before popping up on the table for the delivery.
I wish this kind of birth process to every woman. For me, giving birth was as close as can be to orgasmic birthing, and I did not know then that such a thing existed.
I certainly have good genes, but I cannot help wondering to what extent did the stories of the women in my family, the narrative which overrode what I heard in the media and from friends, contribute to the ease of my own experiences.
Is it far-fetched to think that this might have been the norm at the dawn of humanity and for thousands or years? Would the human race have survived otherwise?
I recently read about conscious conception in ancient societies, the process by which the parents-to-be connected with the soul they wanted to welcome in their family, before engaging in sacred union.
Far from dismissing the difficult birthing experiences of many women, or from being judgemental about personal choices, I only want to introduce ideas for changing the disempowering narrative imposed on women by modern medicine.
Women are carrying a heavy burden of collective grief in their womb, because the feminine ways have been forgotten.
MENOPAUSE AND BEYOND
In my practice, I have observed that all the women who experience severe problems at the menopause had been on synthetic hormones at some point in their life, either the pill, coils, or the morning-after pill. It is important to make an informed choice about contraception, and if you choose to go for the convenience of synthetic hormones, to see a homeopath on a regular basis from an early age, to have these hormones detoxified and your ovaries supported, as well as working with your emotions and the flow of your energy.
The menopause is not a disease. Allopathic medicine has medicalised women's bodies and spread the disempowering view that our bodies are dysfunctional and in need of external intervention at every stage of our life.
Lynne Russel, a fellow homeopath and teacher, wrote in the ARH magazine:
'We are an exquisitely interactive alchemical hormonal soup, ever changing. Our equilibrium is far more subtle and delicate than we can ever dream of replicating with the blunt instruments of synthesised chemicals.'
One of my male homeopathy teachers once told me that he was able to recognise the women who were on synthetic hormones because they had no stars in their eyes. Scientists do not know exactly how synthetic hormones affect women.
The menopause is the end of the periods. It is a natural stage in a woman’s life and usually happens between her mid-forties and early fifties. It is a mostly quiet process for many women while for others it is accompanied by a cohort of manifestations such as hot flushes, night sweats, disrupted sleep patterns, decreased libido and emotional upheaval.
In her book, The Wisdom of Menopause, Dr Christiane Northrup explains:
- 'Research has failed to show any appreciable differences between hormone levels of women who suffer from PMS-like symptoms and those who don't. [...] [Menopausal] symptoms result from a particular combination of a woman's hormone levels and her pre-existing brain chemistry along with her life situation'
In the Chinese tradition, the menopause is called 'the Second Spring'. When a woman stops ovulating, she keeps the creative life force energy of her ovaries for herself. All the energy, creativity and vitality her body had been using to make eggs every month, thicken the uterine lining, support fluctuating hormones and potentially give life to another being, can, after the menopause, be used to give birth to herself, physically and energetically. Sexual energy is our life impulse, our creative energy, and an endless source of well-being when we know how to channel it.
The menopause is a developmental stage, a portal for healing. Our bodies and our minds are connected. Unprocessed emotions leave an imprint in our tissues and organs and create energy blockages. No one teaches us to look at our health in this way, but in my experience, the free-flow of energy though the body is the real measure of health.
The pharmaceutical industry banks on our fears: aging, being left, no longer being desirable, death... This is a reflection of the patriarchy and of religious influences: the view of women's sexuality as mostly for procreation is deeply ingrained in the collective unconscious.
The erotic, wild, dark female sexuality which is expressed before or at menstruation, and which was celebrated in Tantric and shamanic rituals which involved honouring the menstrual blood, has been repressed and shamed for thousands of years.
The same happened with older women's sexuality and the burning of witches at the stake. These women were free, connected with their wild self, with nature. Men did not understand them and feared their power and their influence on younger women.
If you look after yourself with natural remedies, peri-menopause and the menopausal years are an exciting and empowering time of your life, even something to look forward to, such is the inherent potential for transformation and for connection with yourself.
We do not function like men do. Female Viagra doesn't work, despite years of scientific research. which proves that our sexuality does not depend on hormones levels. If it did, all women in their 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s would stop having sex and most don't. Quite a few report having the best sex of their life after the menopause.
All women carry in their wombs their own wounds plus the collective grief of the feminine.
That is because men's sexuality has become the default sexuality. Young people get their sex education through pornography and most adults get their further sex education through porn too.
We need to re-learn that the way to a woman's sexuality is through her heart, emotionally, physically and energetically. Women have become disconnected from their heart through habituation.
We need to remember and to tell our daughters that it is ok to say no. When a woman honours her No, then her Yes becomes all the more vibrant.
Consent, boundaries and safety work hand in hand with pleasure. This is how a woman connects with her wild self (as in free from conditionings) and becomes able to melt into receptivity and surrender.
Men too crave connection but no one tells them that presence is more important than performance.
There is a huge global movement that is spreading these messages, and women are leading the way. Our children deserve better than pornography.
Good to know:
The first thing to try for hot flushes in perimenopause is the Australian Bush Flower She Oak. 7 drops morning and evening .
To encourage energy and blood flow, de-armor your body on a regular basis by releasing the tension accumulated in your tissues over the years from rough or unskilled lovers, repressed emotions, traumas, etc... This is one of the practices I teach to my clients.
Eat essential fatty acids. Fats are the building blocks for hormones. That's why fat-free diets don't work.
For a very good mouthwash, add 3 drops of Hypericum and Calendula mother tincture and 1 drop of the Australian Bush Flower Spinifex to 1/4 cup of water